Today I had a client come to see me for a reiki session- and as she was leaving mentioned that she would be calling me in the new year for a set of conscious eating coaching sessions- as she wanted to start the new year fresh- but there was no sense in getting started before then- because she sure as heck wasn't going to skip her shortbread cookies and mint chocolate ice cream this holiday!
She was in such a jubilant mood after her session I just laughed, smiled and nodded and sent her on her merry way- of course vowing to send her healthier recipe alternatives for these delectables as soon as I got home!
What I had really wanted to tell her is that it doesn't have to be one way or the other- an all or nothing attitude that makes us judge food 'good' or 'bad' is part of what has gotten us into this mess in the first place! A change of attitude is what's called for. The most important key that I recommend to all of my clients is mindful eating. Just ask yourself- what am I eating for?
Biologically we eat to nourish ourselves so that we can continue to heal and thrive as we fully experience life. Emotionally, we may have learned to eat to bury uncomfortable feelings, or soothe ourselves from a hurt that we cannot deal with or express. Sometimes we emotionally eat simply because it chemically induces 'happiness' in our bodies and it is the most simple way we understand to experience or celebrate this feeling. So, simply, every time that you reach for a morsel, ask yourself "why am I eating?" Your goal initially isn't to change your behaviour, only to recognize it.
In my opinion, it is wonderful to fully and completely enjoy your food- it is beautiful way to experience all of your senses- however, we should celebrate why it nourishes us, rather than use it as a tool to hinder or distract ourselves.
We are also trained in our society to diminish ourselves as often as possible, so it is a regular pattern to eat to distract ourselves from an uncomfortable feeling, then berate ourselves after the fact for having no control, being weak, 'bad', etc. etc.
The way I see it, my clients have 2 options:
Feel guilty and 'bad' about their food choices with a black or white attitude, thereby hindering any progress they may have made by holding out for the 'right time' to diet.
Choose to 'healthify' their lives in many moments of the day, and give themselves credit for those choices, so that when the time comes and they want to choose an indulgent food, they may do so- letting go of the judgements they place upon themselves and being fully be present in the moment to enjoy their decadence. I think that the most wonderful thing about learning to mindfully eat is that it allows you become re- aligned with your body, so that you start to pay attention to how foods make you feel physically- whether they make you feel rejuvenated or further depleted- and you begin to make healthier choices naturally, with less resistance.
For most people, it is a transitional process from option one to option two- and even when choosing the second option it takes a while to settle into this new mindset. Be kind to yourself and gently allow this shift to take place. If you try to force it you'll just end up back at square one. Mindfully, with every choice you make, try to healthify- but more importantly ENJOY your life!
BUT in the meantime- have your ice cream and eat it too! Try this:
Mint Chocolate Chip Coconut Milk Ice Cream
**Make sure to use BOTH gums. Xanthan thickens the ice-cream, and guar gum makes it creamy. So, if it’s too thin, add more xanthan, and if it’s too icy, add more guar. It may take some trial and error, but you when you get it right, the texture should resemble soft serve ice-cream.
Thanks so much for your attention to this newsletter. There's so much you could be doing with these 5 minutes and I really appreciate you spending them with me. I wanted to update you on how I am going to be supporting you moving forward and how you can best use the resources and information I have available to you. I have overhauled my entire coaching model to provide more consistent availability, closer contact and more community- it is a passion project which I am super excited about! Moving forward I am going to be sending out an email each month containing tricks and tips for best holistic health and wellness as well celebrating those who are making progress in our Inner Circle Membership.
This had been bothering me for a long time. How can I (an open hearted, goofy introvert) have personal connection with my amazing clients without hitting a social wall each day? I absolutely adored the deep conversations I would have with clients and the breakthroughs they could achieve, but we found that their progress stagnated in the time between meetings, which was frustrating to both of us. I could also only connect with a dozen clients at a time, which meant I had to say 'no' to helping many people (which I absolutely hated doing!)
So, I finally nailed down a group membership structure which I believe is going to work for all of us! You choose your level of content and connection, and I get to be available to more of you on an ongoing basis. My favourite part? I get to connect more of you, some of my favourite humans, into close circles in which we can share and support each other in achieving our wellness goals and living the lives we were destined for. Empaths of the world unite!
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How to Stop a Sugar Bender
Keep Shining Bright and Making Progress!
This month I would love to have you help me celebrate my dear client Julie. Julie told me she had spent over two decades and thousands of dollars trying to heal her gut. She had tried every book, class, holistic program and supplement and had multiple doctors visits and medical procedures to try to fix the problem. I met her while she was participating in the WILDFIT® 90 Day Challenge.
We have spent six weeks together so far, and in that time she has achieved so much! She started honouring her empathetic and highly sensitive qualities in new ways. She started a daily journaling practice. She started setting boundaries for herself AND she has defeated her Sugar Monster! She has also shed lots of pounds and inches, but said that is not even a big deal anymore because now her goal is being healthy, rather than being thin. Together we found the answers to why everything else hadn't worked, and what she really needed to make lasting progress. She is EMPOWERED and UNSTOPPABLE! In her words she says: My very favorite thing (about working with me) is that she is helping me see and more importantly embrace the most amazing part of myself. As scary as that can be, she does it in a way that makes me feel excited and anxious to keep moving forward full steam ahead! So proud of you Jules!
Refresh, Renew, Release.
CALLING ALL WILDTHINGS! If you are a WILDFIT® Grad and are looking for an opportunity to move back into a season of Spring soon with a group- here it is!
I am so excited to combine what we love about our 4 week program with a little extra spice to ensure you get into your fat burning zone and achieve the results you are after- all while feeling the best you can.
I am also including more mind, body and spiritual aspects, practices and rituals to stimulate detox and release within the deeper layers of ourselves, without having to ever talk about it! It is going to be in a new format so that we can chat and share over Whatsapp in real time, PLUS you will receive notifications, reminders, inspiration and more direct from me in your personal app! Are you joining us?
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